Turn Your Cycle of Self-Sabotage Into the Breakthrough God Designed Just for You

A Christ-centered, 6-week challenge to overcome the patterns keeping you stuck, so you can finally walk in the breakthrough you’ve been praying for.

We talk about faith. but what about the doubt, fear, shame, and the secret emotional breakdowns?

As Christian women, this is the conversation we’re not having enough:

  • You start off strong on your walk with God. You feel hopeful, but then end up right back where you were: disconnected, discouraged, and wondering what’s wrong with you.

  • You’ve studied some scriptures and try to take your thoughts captive and cast your burdens on Jesus, but still don’t know how to actually live like that when your mind won’t stop spinning.

  • You’ve heard “just pray more” and “have more faith” or “just have more discipline”… but that advice feels empty when nothing in your life is changing.

  • You keep pushing through, but feel like you should be further by now…and secretly feel like God is getting tired of you not staying committed.

  • You try to be “Christian enough”, forgiving, faithful, joyful, but you keep falling short and hiding the hurt you still carry inside.

And if we’re really being honest…

Doing all the “right things” starts to feel like an unfair punishment, because lets get real for a second:

It’s suffocating

to hold in all the frustration and emotion, because if you let it out, you’re afraid you’ll be “too much” or push people away.

It’s scary

to set boundaries because deep down, you’re afraid of disappointing people or being seen as selfish.

It’s lonely

to be there for everyone else, while quietly neglecting your own needs and breaking down inside.

It’s terrifying

to let go of what’s unhealthy, that toxic relationship, the scrolling for hours, the binge-watching, the comfort food, because it’s been your safe place for so long.

It’s exhausting

to keep trying to forgive people who never took responsibility, while you carry the weight of what they did.

And it’s heartbreaking

to keep coming back to God, feeling like He’s probably done with you, so you distance yourself, sit in the pain and guilt, and say “I’m fine” while silently breaking.

So you got motivated, started a routine that felt right, but it didn’t last. Why not?

You’re treating the symptoms, not the root. Without knowing why you keep falling into the same patterns, routines will always feel like a temporary fix.

God becomes another item on the checklist. When your connection with Him turns into performance, guilt creeps in and the joy disappears.

You’re making promises, without understanding your patterns. It’s not about trying harder. Real change starts with self-awareness and a change in beliefs, not more willpower.

Old patterns don’t break with new habits alone. You need to change the belief that’s driving them. This challenge is your invitation to help you uncover the strongholds that have really been keeping you stuck.

Inconsistency isn’t the issue. It’s a sign. Fear, pain and old beliefs are often hiding underneath, quietly running the show.

Don’t just take my word for it

“Our minds have the incredible power to change the brain’s wiring, but only when we consciously identify and interrupt destructive thought patterns. Without this awareness and intentional work, we remain prisoners of our beliefs, stuck in emotional loops that sabotage our progress and peace.”

~ Dr. Caroline Leaf, Cognitive Neuroscientist and Bestselling Author in Mental Health and Mind-Brain Research

"The core of our struggles is not the events of our past, but the stories we tell ourselves about those events. Until we learn to rewrite those stories, to challenge the lies and false beliefs, we remain trapped in patterns that keep us from becoming who God created us to be"

~ Dr. Dan Allender , Christian counselor and bestselling author, expert in trauma recovery and emotional healing

“Shame is a powerful force that tells us we are not worthy of love or belonging. It can keep us trapped in cycles of hiding and self-sabotage because we fear being seen as flawed. The antidote is courage, the willingness to be vulnerable and rewrite the narrative we’ve believed about ourselves”

~Dr. Brené Brown, renowned researcher and bestselling author, expert on vulnerability, shame, and courage.

Long story short:

Your mind will fight for familiar pain until you teach it something better, starting with your beliefs. Here’s your chance to learn how to do just that.

her path to progress

Welcome to:

A transformative 6-week challenge that helps you conquer self-sabotage, break unhealthy cycles of guilt, fear, and doubt, and draw closer to God while finally experiencing real personal growth.

So, what's included?

Weekly Guided Sessions For Real, Lasting Transformations

Each week, you’ll get access to 6 powerful, pre-recorded sessions designed to help you understand the mental and emotional habits formed deep within you, patterns you’ve lived with so long they feel like second nature. You’ll finally see how your old patterns have been shaping how you show up and learn how to start responding like someone who’s able to build a healthy relationship with God, trust herself again, and show up fully for the people who matter most.

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A Short Daily Practice That Helps You Notice What’s Controlling Your Life

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I keep doing this even when I don’t want to?”, this is where things finally start to make sense. Each day, you’ll answer a few simple, guided prompts that help you spot what triggered you, how you reacted, and why it keeps happening, patterns you may or may not have noticed, but don’t realize how it’s quietly shape your feelings, relationships, and self-worth. You’ll learn how to stop slipping into guilt, anxiety, depression, or shutting down out of habit and start responding in ways that actually feel calm, clear, and in control.

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Weekly Reflections That Reveal the Beliefs Behind Your Actions

Each week I will guide you through questions that are designed to help you recognize what’s been hiding under the surface, like the hurt you wish you were over or the belief that keeps pulling you back into guilt, fear, shame, and insecurity. You will get the kind of clarity that will make you say “that wasn’t just a bad habit, it was a belief I didn’t even know I had”. You’ll start to see how your thoughts, reactions, and habits are producing results you don’t want


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A Simple Way to Spot the Progress You’d Usually Overlook

You’ll use a quick and simple practice at the end of each day that helps you notice what went right (even if your day felt like a mess). Many women give up because they don’t see change happening. This helps you recognize the growth God is doing in you, so you stay encouraged and committed, instead of giving up too soon.


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In-the-Moment Self-Coaching Guide to Break the Sabotage Cycle Before It Starts

Whether you’re afraid you messed up too badly to come back to God, overthinking a text, stuck replaying a conversation, feeling ashamed after reacting the wrong way, tempted to disconnect and pretend you're fine, or something from your past that’s hard to let go, this guide gives you the exact questions to walk yourself out of it. You’ll have a go-to tool to process what’s really happening in the moment, so you won’t let emotions make decisions you wish you could take back. It will help you have the clarity to respond in a way that feels right and walk away without second-guessing yourself


Faith That Makes Room for Your Real Emotions

This challenge gives you the space to stop feeling like a failure for struggling with fear, doubt, or sadness, and start seeing how Scripture meets you right there. It reminds you that Scripture is full of people who were real with God and still deeply loved. And you’ll learn to bring the parts of you you’ve been hiding into His presence. You’ll stop running from God in those hard moments and start running to Him instead.

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The Inner Work Blueprint: 6 Truths Every Christian Woman Needs for Lasting Growth

This bonus ebook is your go-to guide for the deeper, foundational shifts that support everything you’ll work through in the challenge. It unpacks 6 biblical principles that will:

  • Help you see growth as a process, not pressure to fix everything at once, so when the challenge starts digging deeper, you won’t feel like you're failing or falling behind

  • Prepare you for real change, especially when growth feels hard, slow, or exhausting

  • Help you connect the dots between spiritual battles and emotional patterns, so when you hear similar truths in the weekly sessions, they’ll hit deeper and land stronger

You will also get:

Personalized email support when you need it

If you are worried you will:

  • Get stuck or confused

  • Second-guess yourself

  • Feel overwhelmed halfway through

  • Feel like you want to give up or have fallen behind

You won’t have to navigate it alone. Email me directly and I’ll be there to personally support you through questions, roadblocks, and the moments you feel like quitting, so you don’t lose momentum when it matters most. With the right help at the right time, you’ll keep moving forward and finally feel like the change you’ve been praying for is actually possible.

Getting started is simple:

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Create Your Login

Set up your free Squarespace account first! This gives you instant access to the challenge right after purchase. No extra logins or delays

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Choose Your Payment Option

Pay in full (and save 15%) or choose the payment plan and split it into two monthly payments.

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Get instant Access

You’ll get a welcome email with everything you need: instructions, bonus ebook, and access link, so you can start right away!

here’s A look into each week:

Week 1

Finally Understand What’s Actually Going On in Your Head

You can’t change your patterns if you don’t even realize what you’re thinking. So this week you will learn how to:

  • Start noticing the thoughts that have been running in the background, the ones that quietly shape how you feel, how you react, and how you show up.

  • Begin to see what’s really behind the guilt, the overthinking, the emotional shutdowns, and the moods you can’t explain.

  • By the end of the week, you’ll probably think, “Oh... that’s why I keep getting stuck. This has been going on in my head the whole time.”

Week 2

how to Stop Letting People and Situations Control How You Feel

There are moments you lose your temper, shut down, or overreact and later wonder, Why did I even do that? This week is where you’ll finally start to connect the dots. You’ll learn how to

  • Recognize the specific people, situations, and conversations that trigger emotional reactions and why certain moments hit you harder than others

  • Notice these moments in real time, so you don’t keep replaying the same patterns and wondering why you always feel anxious, defensive, or drained

  • Stay emotionally steady without shutting down, people-pleasing, or pretending you’re fine when you’re not

You’ve been trying to stay “positive.” But there are fears, beliefs, and questions you’ve been stuffing down… and they’re affecting everything. This week, you’ll learn how to:

  • Uncover the beliefs and fears you have about yourself that you’ve been silently living with, like, “Maybe I’m too much,” “What if I never change?” or “Does God still see me the same?”

  • Be emotionally honest with God, even when you feel ashamed, stuck, or unsure of what to say

  • Understand why avoiding hard emotions keeps you stuck longer and how facing them actually makes you feel more grounded, not more overwhelmed

  • Feel lighter, not because everything is fixed, but because you’re finally being honest about what’s there finally see a path to healing

Week 3

Learn to Get Honest With What You’ve Been Avoiding

Week 4

Learn How to Accept What You Can’t Change, So You Can Heal What You Can

There are parts of your story you’ve tried to hide from, parts you still feel ashamed of. But no amount of fixing will bring peace until you learn to face what happened and release it. This week, you’ll learn how to:

  • Know what true acceptance actually looks like, not minimizing what happened or pretending you’re fine, but making space to feel it and let God meet you there

  • Stop carrying shame over parts of your story you couldn’t control and release the guilt that was never yours to hold

  • Let go of the pressure to “move on” and start healing from a place of honesty, not avoidance

  • Respond when old pain you’re still learning to accept gets triggered, without shutting down or slipping back into old patterns

Week 5

Learn to Find the Beliefs That’ve Been Quietly Sabotaging Everything

By now, you’ve done enough work to see the patterns. This week, you’ll finally understand why they’ve been so hard to break. You’ll learn how to:

  • Spot the core beliefs that have quietly shaped what you settle for, strive for, or feel guilty about

  • Recognize how those beliefs are behind the constant pressure to prove yourself or fix everything

  • Trace your emotional reactions back to the deeper story you've been telling yourself, often without realizing it

  • Walk away thinking: “I’ve been living like that was true my whole life... no wonder I felt so stuck.”

Week 6

Know Exactly What to Do When Old Patterns Try to Come Back

Even with everything you’ve learned, there will still be moments when old thoughts and emotions sneak back in. That’s why you’ll also get a go-to tool you can take with you, something to help you walk through those hard moments even after the challenge ends. You will learn how to:

  • Stay grounded in the moment instead of slipping into overthinking, anxiety, or emotional outbursts

  • Respond differently when you feel rejected, overwhelmed, or like you're messing up again

  • Use a simple, repeatable process to pause, reflect, and choose a response you won’t regret

  • Handle situations that used to throw you off emotionally, with more clarity, stability, and self-awareness

  • Walk away thinking: “I actually know what to do now when things get hard. I don’t have to fall back into the same old patterns.”

A Few More Voices Confirming Why This Approach Works

“Many of us get stuck because we’re holding on to lies we believe about ourselves, lies that keep us trapped in guilt, shame, and self-sabotage. But God’s truth breaks every chain, and that freedom begins with the way we choose to think.”

~ Priscilla Shirer, Renowned Bible Teacher, Speaker, and Bestselling Author of The Armor of God

"You cannot heal what you do not face. The cycles we repeat are often rooted in unaddressed pain and false beliefs about our worth. When you surrender those to God, you make space for transformation and peace."

~ Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times Bestselling Author, Speaker, and Influential Leader in Christian Women’s Ministry

“God’s grace doesn’t just cover our mistakes. It empowers us to change the patterns that have shaped us and step into the purpose He has designed.”

~ Francis Chan, Bestselling Author, Pastor, and Influential Christian Leader

Trying harder isn’t working

You could:

read more books, watch more sermons, or follow inspiring women online.

But information isn’t transformation. You listen on Sunday and that sense of hope fades by Tuesday and you’re back in the same cycle

build the perfect routine and try to be “more disciplined”.

But you can’t out-discipline a heart issue

keep pretending you're fine and waiting for things to “click”.

But waiting keeps you stuck. And meanwhile, the guilt builds, it feels like the gap between you and God grows, and the shame of not changing stays loud.

So, what makes this challenge different from what you’ve tried before?

This isn’t a course. And it’s not just more encouragement or tips you could find on Instagram. It’s a way to actually move forward, especially when you feel stuck or overwhelmed.

  • It’s not endless reading you’ll forget in a few days.

  • You’ll get real, guided action steps so you’re not just hoping things will change, you’ll see it happening.

  • It meets you in your real life, like when guilt hits after snapping at someone, or you’re stuck in your head rehashing everything.

  • You’ll learn how to stop automatically choosing to shutdown or self-blame and start handling hard moments with more calm and clarity.

  • You’ll uncover the hidden beliefs that keep you anxious, over-explaining, or disconnecting from God and others and begin to respond in healthier ways.

  • You’ll learn how to not run from God, especially when you mess up.

  • Every step is simple, doable, and built to help you make progress you can actually feel, not just think about.

So, Here’s everything included:

You will receive:

  • 6 weekly guided sessions for real, lasting transformations

  • A short daily practice that help you notice what’s controlling your life

  • A weekly reflection exercise that reveal what’s really holding you back

  • A simple way to spot the progress you’d usually overlook

  • In-the-moment self-coaching guide to break the sabotage cycle before it starts

  • Faith that makes room for your real emotions

*BONUS*

  • The Inner Work Blueprint: 6 Truths Every Christian Woman Needs for Lasting Growth

  • Personalized email support when you need it 

Everything you need to stop the cycle and start real change for

$597 or 2 payments of $298.50

* Pay in full and save 15%. Automatically applied at checkout*

7-day money back Guarantee

I know what it’s like to wonder if something will really make a difference. That’s why I’m making this simple: if you join the challenge and, within the first 7 days, you genuinely feel it’s not helping, you will get a full refund. This is your safety net. Not because I expect you’ll need it, but because I never want fear of “what if it doesn’t work” to keep you from what just might.

Meet the coach behind the scenes

Hey! My name is Raeana Porter. I’m here to help you uncover the beliefs that keep you stuck, the ones you didn’t even realize were shaping your choices, your self-worth, and how you show up each day. Together, we’ll create real change you can actually feel: less second-guessing, fewer moments of self-doubt, and more clarity about who you truly are as God’s daughter.

You’ll learn how to handle tough moments differently, learn to heal and not just manage your triggers without being controlled by them, and how to stay close to God even when you mess up. This is where the work becomes more than just information. It becomes how you live, how you heal, and how you keep walking with God, no matter the obstacles. Get ready to see yourself in a way you didn’t even think was possible!


This is for you if:

You’re done pretending you’re fine when inside, you’re overwhelmed, anxious, and second-guessing everything.

You’re tired of feeling stuck and you know something deeper is going on, you just haven’t been able to name it yet.

You want to grow closer to God, but shame or fear keeps getting in the way, especially when you mess up.

You’re ready to do the work, even if it’s uncomfortable, because you know surface-level answers just don’t work anymore.

You’re craving real tools to help you respond differently in hard moments, instead of reacting or shutting down.

This isn’t for you if:

You want something that feels good in the moment, but you’re not in a place where you're willing to slow down, respond, and let God do deeper work.

You’re not open to being honest with yourself or exploring beliefs that may be uncomfortable to face.

You’re not in a place where faith matters to you, or you’re not interested in connecting this growth work to your relationship with God.

You want to stay in your comfort zone, even if it means staying stuck.

You’re hoping someone else will do the work for you, even though this challenge is about your commitment to your own healing.

 Frequently Asked Questions

  • You can pay in full for $597 and automatically save 15% at checkout or you can split your payment into two monthly payments of $298.50.

  • Each week, you'll unlock a new video lesson that focuses on a core area of growth. Then, you’ll get practical daily prompts, tools, and powerful reflective exercises (that I actually walk you through) to help you actually live what you're learning. This isn’t just more information. It’s guidance you’ll feel working in your day-to-day life

  • Great question! Squarespace requires you to sign up before purchasing. This keeps things running smoothly for you. When you create your account before paying, you skip the tech hiccups later. That way, once you purchase, all you have to do is check your inbox for your welcome email, log in, and get started. No extra clicks or confusion!

  • If you’re not satisfied with the challenge, you have the option to receive a full refund during the first 7 days of your purchase. However, I truly believe that if you show up and engage with the process, even imperfectly, you’ll gain the clarity, tools, and forward momentum you’ve been craving.

  • Absolutely! You’ll be able to access the full challenge right from your phone. All additional resources, including the downloadable materials, are provided through Google Docs, so you can easily open and use them on any mobile device too.

  • You can’t really fall behind. This challenge is intentionally paced to give you time to absorb and practice what you're learning, not rush through it. You’ll have a full week between sessions so you can apply the steps in real life, not just learn about them. If life gets busy, you can pause and pick back up without guilt. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s progress that actually sticks.

  • That’s exactly why this isn’t about more willpower or more doing. It’s about helping you see the beliefs underneath your behavior so you can finally stop repeating patterns that don’t serve you. When you start thinking differently, your decisions change too. This challenge helps you do that gently, honestly, and from the inside out.

  • Nope. It’s not a bunch of videos for you to “get through.” This is hands-on, practical work that walks with you through the thoughts, reactions, and quiet struggles you face every day. You’ll use it as you live, not just after you’ve found the time. It’s designed to meet you where you are and help you move forward.

  • This challenge doesn’t push you into religious routines. It helps you rebuild your connection with God by understanding what’s been in the way. Many women realize they weren’t far from God; they were just buried under shame, fear, and false beliefs. This gives you a space to feel seen, heard, and safe to reconnect with Him in an honest, healing way.

Ready to stop getting in your own way and finally grow into the woman God’s been calling you to be?

You don’t need more temporary solutions. You need the tools to actually change what’s going on beneath the surface this challenge gives you exactly what you need to take your first step toward real transformation… for REAL this time!